Society & Being

I am no philosopher, though I would love to be, to deliberate on the higher faculties of human mind and its subtle interactions with the world starting from his own self to the society at large. What I express here is my own experience of the freedom of an individual and its intricate relationship with society. Whether society provides a barrier to individual expression and realization of freedom or it actually prepares the stage for the entity to express his own self.

                                   As RabindraNath Tagore once mentioned  " Truth can only be observed through observation and reflective concepts .To assert that something is true or untrue in the absence of anyone to observe or perceive its truth is highly questionable". The correlation of man and society is no different. Man is the essential and basic constituent of society, the central part of the societal structure, around which other peripherals are built to give the shape of totality. Without the society, human presence becomes as non-existent as the truth without observation. So the freedom of human being as an individual can only be discussed and deliberated on the premise of its interaction with society. 

                                    The very society which obstructs our path to exert ourselves in the truest sense, to realize our capabilities and exercise our choices of the best way to lead our lives, that obfuscates every individual  ideology with which lives have to be celebrated through the fogs and mists of  religion,caste,gender,class,ethnicity,practice, is the same structure that very well defines our existence, accepts our assertiveness and audacity, lauds our achievements and teaches us the vagaries of life and the underlying methods in the external randomness that we very often try to ignore. It’s the obstruction that gives value to our efforts and success; it’s the opposition that we face in explaining and implementing our ideas that gives them their place under the sun. So society in a sense is our alter-ego-a sort of evidence to our lives.An ever-flowing river on the banks of which we built our castles of life.

In a Relationship

What a new found economic freedom and emotional security can do to a perfectly healthy relationship? Nothing much except that it takes away the flab out of the body, the flesh out of the bone ,making it bare and naked, staring at you with a sense of practicality and ruthlessness. It takes away the junk from the metal that has piled on over the years, so what lies is a pithy substance that reflects the basic premise of a relationship. The superficiality of emotional exchange and overt overtures become insufficient to fill up the vacuum created by emotional starvation. It earmarks one's area of indulgence and delineates the transgression into others personal boundary. So the lines of comfort and compatibility become prominently underlined. The freshness of the  moments shared ,that made the journey so memorable and enjoyable till the recent past.,stinks with a smell of indifference.

                                This calls for a scrutiny of personal space and extent of sharing between two lives. The sooner one accepts the brutality and brazenness of reality, the easier it would be for one to adapt to the changed profile of the relationship. But the urgency and extent of the changed order really tests your adaptability to the new found circumstances. How one comes out of it in a matured and positive state of mind depends upon his character, integrity and the sanctity of thought process.

                                In between somewhere, there is an undercurrent of expectations from a relationship that acts like a catalyst in this entire psychological and emotional gameplay.Expectations never come to the front and exerts its influence in changing the shape of the relationship, but actually manifest itself into more identifiable forms which measure the intimacy, dependency and mutual understanding between two individuals.In a relationship, we are always part of a whole, as far as the bonding goes while we feel as whole of the part when our individuality gains prominence. To strike a balance between these two extremes is pivotal to a thriving relationship.